Awwnn Kingsleyyyyyy I am in awe of everything you write but this left me absolutely speechless. I still don't know what to say. Honestly. This is so deep and genuine. You are beautiful Kingsley, I think beauty comes from accepting who you are with or without the opinion of others, you are beautiful in every single way, In the way you look, in who you are, in what you write and in the way you carry yourself. I know for sure the journey is never easy but you will get through this, I am sure❤️❤️
Male beauty standards are seldom ever considered, often tossed in the bag of "problems women get worse therefore yours doesn't matter".
(It's such an odd stance to take.)
I think one potential worthy addition might be to confess not only anothers perception of beauty can change over time, but attraction itself is also beyond most people's control.
There are things that might spark it, but many fundamental things we think are beautiful and attractive is in our bones.
If anything, accepting what you can't or shouldn't control and projecting confidence as a good person is what's noticeable to others...
oh, this was a hug to my soul thank you so much and my your comment is amazing. would love to know more takes on this from you, this is truly an amazing comment. thank you so much! ❤️
This is something that's not talked about enough for men. I think it's largely from the way men are meant to be in society - confident, reliable, and stern. "Men aren't supposed to care about their looks, that's a girl thing."
Yet at the same time "why don't men care about their looks and hygiene? Eww." It's like we can never win either way so we try doing what we can for the lesser evil.
I think it's completely normal to feel 'ugly' even when you're not that 'bad.'
I'm the same as you Kingsley, I have acne, boils, and scars all throughout my body. Sometimes when I'm in the hospital I'm even asked if I was abused or have cigarette burns because of my acne/boil scars. It's embarrassing, but it's also a part of me.
We aren't ugly, we are beautiful and learning to love ourselves. We are trying the best we can to be accepted, loved, and cherished. No matter what they say, we are growing one step at a time. 😊
At least that's how I feel. You aren't ugly, you're just trying your best in a harsh world. Eventually you'll find someone that makes you feel handsome/beautiful. Until that time comes, just try to accept you, for you.
Cory, what you've said, about men and how they're viewed in society is so powerful and true. its really disheartening to see that our grievances as men aren't fully acknowledged and that forces us to hide things that shouldn't be hidden in the first place, like how we see ourselves and are viewed by others.
like how we're being told (like you said) men caring about their looks is a "girly thing" but then still told that hygiene is important when they're being made small for just being.
I would never wrap my head around such mediocrity.
thank you, your words made me feel safe and truly seen.
Hopefully the issues get more light in society. Many people say they care, but it's mostly superficial.
I'm glad my words were comforting for you. ❤️ You're concerns and vulnerabilities are completely justified. I hope you're able to build some more self-confidence. 😊
I've read this in my email. I've read this here on the app, I've read it again and again and again and still i can't craft a good response on how deeply i resonate with this post. I can't. How you defined ugliness is exactly how it is. One minute you are in awe of how beautiful you are and then the next, you are confused on how you saw beauty in the first place.
I love the way you are too, Kingsley. Oh, i love it. You are so beautiful, beautiful without outward opinion influencing it. ❤️
TO BE A KEN IS A HUUGE PRIVILEGE TO NOT BE SEXUALIZED. NOW WE GONNA CHANGE IT .SO MALES(MOSTLY STRAIGHT) GONNA BE FORCED INTO BEAUTY STANDARDS WE WERE FORCED INTO. AND ITS A HUUUUGE LIST OF SHIT!!!
but thank you... for seeing you in it. and...I may not know you, or have seen you to give you a heartfelt advice, but.. I just hope you see beyond the looks and see that you are indeed beautiful with or without the opinion of others.
This is a very strong piece. Worth the time spent reading it.
Proud of you and I love you the way you are. Zero fucks given about the looks. ❤️
Ellis!!! Omg!! 🥹 thank you so much, this means so much to me. 😭🫂
❤️❤️!
🥹
I just want to give you a hug rn🥹🥹
me too!!! 😭😭🫂
Awwnn Kingsleyyyyyy I am in awe of everything you write but this left me absolutely speechless. I still don't know what to say. Honestly. This is so deep and genuine. You are beautiful Kingsley, I think beauty comes from accepting who you are with or without the opinion of others, you are beautiful in every single way, In the way you look, in who you are, in what you write and in the way you carry yourself. I know for sure the journey is never easy but you will get through this, I am sure❤️❤️
with a heartfelt comment like yours, nothing's stopping me from overcoming this.
aysha, thank you soooo much, this means a lot to me. you, mean a lot to me, thank you.
❤️
What a rare gem this was!
Male beauty standards are seldom ever considered, often tossed in the bag of "problems women get worse therefore yours doesn't matter".
(It's such an odd stance to take.)
I think one potential worthy addition might be to confess not only anothers perception of beauty can change over time, but attraction itself is also beyond most people's control.
There are things that might spark it, but many fundamental things we think are beautiful and attractive is in our bones.
If anything, accepting what you can't or shouldn't control and projecting confidence as a good person is what's noticeable to others...
And I think you're well on that road already.
oh, this was a hug to my soul thank you so much and my your comment is amazing. would love to know more takes on this from you, this is truly an amazing comment. thank you so much! ❤️
This is so true and beautifully written ❤️
thank you so much, I love you. 🫂❤️
This is something that's not talked about enough for men. I think it's largely from the way men are meant to be in society - confident, reliable, and stern. "Men aren't supposed to care about their looks, that's a girl thing."
Yet at the same time "why don't men care about their looks and hygiene? Eww." It's like we can never win either way so we try doing what we can for the lesser evil.
I think it's completely normal to feel 'ugly' even when you're not that 'bad.'
I'm the same as you Kingsley, I have acne, boils, and scars all throughout my body. Sometimes when I'm in the hospital I'm even asked if I was abused or have cigarette burns because of my acne/boil scars. It's embarrassing, but it's also a part of me.
We aren't ugly, we are beautiful and learning to love ourselves. We are trying the best we can to be accepted, loved, and cherished. No matter what they say, we are growing one step at a time. 😊
At least that's how I feel. You aren't ugly, you're just trying your best in a harsh world. Eventually you'll find someone that makes you feel handsome/beautiful. Until that time comes, just try to accept you, for you.
Much love to you, Kingsley. ❤️
Cory, what you've said, about men and how they're viewed in society is so powerful and true. its really disheartening to see that our grievances as men aren't fully acknowledged and that forces us to hide things that shouldn't be hidden in the first place, like how we see ourselves and are viewed by others.
like how we're being told (like you said) men caring about their looks is a "girly thing" but then still told that hygiene is important when they're being made small for just being.
I would never wrap my head around such mediocrity.
thank you, your words made me feel safe and truly seen.
much life to you too ! ❤️
x
Hopefully the issues get more light in society. Many people say they care, but it's mostly superficial.
I'm glad my words were comforting for you. ❤️ You're concerns and vulnerabilities are completely justified. I hope you're able to build some more self-confidence. 😊
i hope so too, thank you! ❤️
You are amazing. 😚
❤️❤️😭
I've read this in my email. I've read this here on the app, I've read it again and again and again and still i can't craft a good response on how deeply i resonate with this post. I can't. How you defined ugliness is exactly how it is. One minute you are in awe of how beautiful you are and then the next, you are confused on how you saw beauty in the first place.
I love the way you are too, Kingsley. Oh, i love it. You are so beautiful, beautiful without outward opinion influencing it. ❤️
muyiii, I love you sm, thank you. this is amazing. 😭😭💕
TO BE A KEN IS A HUUGE PRIVILEGE TO NOT BE SEXUALIZED. NOW WE GONNA CHANGE IT .SO MALES(MOSTLY STRAIGHT) GONNA BE FORCED INTO BEAUTY STANDARDS WE WERE FORCED INTO. AND ITS A HUUUUGE LIST OF SHIT!!!
so your beef is with straight men & not gay people? why?
"To be beautiful is to exist without outward opinion influencing that beauty."
This line is everything for me 🔥
aw, thank you so much. 🫂💕
we all are.
but thank you... for seeing you in it. and...I may not know you, or have seen you to give you a heartfelt advice, but.. I just hope you see beyond the looks and see that you are indeed beautiful with or without the opinion of others.
love, k.